With Me First
Donald the Dumb is an embarrassment to anyone who follows the news for five minutes on any day during the campaign and his fake presidency. He behaves like an elementary school bully. He lacks basic educational knowledge and tries to make up for it by pushing and shoving his way around his playground. Case in point.
At the NATO summit, the prime minister of Montenegro, Dusko Markovic, blew off Donald the Dumb’s behavior and didn’t act offended, even though everyone else was. Sean Spicer claimed that he hadn’t seen the video of the shoving incident. I don’t buy that he hadn’t seen Donald the Dumb pushing Markovic; the video went viral. However, having supposedly not seen the video, he explained that Trump was merely getting to where he was supposed to be standing for a photo op.
As the arrogant schoolyard bully, having shoved Markovic, Donald the Dumb straightens his coat as if to say, “I’m here. Let the show begin.” No, Donald, the show already started. You have showed just another example in a long list of psych issues illustrating your Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) 301.81. You are related to Narcissus. You act as though you are #1 when you know you are not.
The following list are the nine criteria from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). To be diagnosed with NPD, a patient must exhibit at least five of the nine criteria.
Look at the list of criteria. Name one of the nine that isn’t a characteristic of Donald the Dumb. The pushing incident at NATO’s headquarters is merely one example, albeit an excellent one of his grandiose view of himself. However, this grandiosity isn’t due to being superior but rather feeling inferior to others. Since he lacks any impulse control, Donald the Dumb merely acts out his schoolboy bully behavior.
Donald the Dumb’s campaign slogan about making America First actually means that he wants to be first. Yo, Donald, there are 7-billion people in the world; you are first in only your mind.
At the age of 70, Donald the Dumb isn’t going to change. Nonetheless, his unfortunate behavior can help each of us as we walk down our yellow brick roads of our lives. The haunting question is what drives you and I?
Abraham Maslow wrote a paper entitled A Theory of Human Motivation. Anyone who ever took a psychology class his seen the following chart.
Starting at the bottom of Maslow’s pyramid, all people need to survive. We need to supply the basics of life like food. The first thing that an infant does after delivery is to let everyone know that the infant wants food. Without food and the basics, we can’t survive.
Once we acquire the physiological needs, we move up the pyramid to broadening our needs. We need to acquire jobs, places to stay, etc. This level is based upon safety, and, in combination with the physiological level, are means to function as a living person.
As we move to the next level, we explore relationships with family, friendships, and love. Once we can survive, we then can make life more than merely surviving. However, this level is essential to truly living. However, without some successes in this process of exploring our lives beyond the physical and safety levels, we will suffer due to our inability with any sort of intimacy. There are many that haven’t either gotten to this third level or gone beyond it.
What drives you and I? We have gotten at least to the third level as we move up Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. If we are going to have any sort of meaningful relationships with others, we need to deal with what seems like a psychological oxymoron. It is in giving that we get.
If you wish to have meaningful relationships with others, you need to share. Strangely, this oxymoron seems contradictory. We have spent two levels trying to obtain food and things, and, now, we need to share.
This is where many remain in their “me first” demands. Trump’s “me first” is cloaked in a seemingly politically correct version, America first. Donald, that ain’t going’ to work for you, and it won’t work for others either. However, it is in sharing that we get. The question that my reader and I should be asking ourselves is whether we are building our version of a Trump Tower?
George Eliot’s novella, Silas Marner, was about an old miserly man who was like Donald the Dumb. Silas Marner was building his version of a Trump Tower by hoarding gold. What changed Silas Marner? Eppie, a little toddler, who changed his life.
George Eliot wrote this paragraph to explain what happened to Silas Marner and can happen to us.
Silas Marner learned to share with Eppie, who was an orphan who wandered into his miserly life and transformed it...by sharing. Gone were the days of “me first.” We need to begin by sharing with our nuclear family and our extended families. However, everyone in this world is a part of our larger family...the human family. When we act like a bully in the schoolyard, we will remain like the old Silas Marner and Donald the Dumb.
We need to reach out to others with money, with time, with a helping hand, with a kind word, and with just a smile. Silas Marner became a new person, even though he was an old man. Donald the Dumb is also an old man, but his deafening shouts of “me first” deafens Eliot’s insight. However, neither you nor I should miss Eliot’s message, or we will be the fool on the hill.
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